You just met this incredible woman in the bar. The two of you chat for a while and as it turns out, she’s all that you want in a woman – and she seems to like you too. But here’s the thing: you’re constantly broke. “Women like her probably get lots of attention from rich guys,” you think to yourself. “I will probably have no chance”. So you give up before you even started.
But the fact is, some of the most effective ways to impress a woman don’t require a fortune. In fact, expensive gifts are often a sign of a lazy bum – it’s the easy way out that doesn’t require effort and thinking. To really stand out of the crowd, all you need is a bit of creativity to show that you care.
How do you do that? Let’s find out.
1. Strategic Compliment
How many times do you think a professional pianist have heard her audience praise her skills with the piano? How many times do you think a vocalist heard her friends praise her voice?
Now think about this: how many times do you think a beautiful woman heard a man praise her looks? You’re right: more than she cares to count.
As such, these kinds of compliments mean little to nothing. Does that mean you shouldn’t compliment at all? Of course not. You do, however, need to compliment strategically. Here is an example:
Let’s say you like a beautiful dancer. Complimenting her for her looks or a dancing skills won’t make you stand out from the crowd, so what do you do? You find out what her other hobbies are. Perhaps she likes rock-climbing – and is very average at the sport. How many times do you think she’s heard people complimenting her for her rock-climbing skills?
That’s right: few, if any.
2. Being great with her kids
This is one of the most effective ways into a woman’s heart. Here’s the hard truth: men are seldom good with kids, especially kids that are not theirs. So if you are, you can be sure you’ll be the odd one out – and that’s a good thing.
It’ll show her that you are a family guy, not just out to take advantage of her.
3. Having a passion
Nothing turns a woman off more than a man without a passion. And by passion, I don’t mean putting her on a pedestal or throwing her on a table and make love right then and there.
By passion, I mean do you have a purpose in life, something that keeps you going on a day to day basis. A man who dedicates his life fighting against sex-trafficking is a great example, but you don’t have to go that far if you don’t want to.
Raising your children on your own or volunteering at the local orphanage still counts so don’t hide it, thinking that she might accuse you of being pretentious!
4. Taking care of yourself, physically
It may not be politically correct, but we all judge a book by its cover. And one of the tell-tale signs of a loser is someone who doesn’t take care of himself physically – and that includes personal hygiene, your weight and how you dress.
Want to impress a woman? The first step is to keep your nails short, your hair well-combed and dress decently – whatever that means to the woman of your dream (this one varies). Second, start exercising and keep yourself fit.
5. Doing the unexpected
Strategic compliments work, in large part, because of its unexpectedness. But here’s the thing: you don’t have to stop there. You can also DO the unexpected. Here’s a simple example: calling to say I love you.
Not at that stage? Perhaps plan a surprise weekend-getaway? Remember, however, not to cross the line between unexpected and just plain creepy.
6. Listening
Have you ever listened to what the woman of your dreams is saying? No, I don’t mean hear, I mean listen. When a man listens, he is interested – engrossed even. He leans forward, he nods and he maintains eye contact. If you’re a third-party observing the conversation, he looks like a child listening to a story.
And he’s not there to offer solutions either – most of what you have in mind she probably thought of anyway. He’s there to understand.
Most men make the mistake of trying to be interesting, when all he has to do to impress a woman is be interested.
7. Humor
Here’s the best investment you’ll ever make in your quest to impress women: a joke book. Spend your money learning to be funny instead of all those protein powder to bulk up. Why? Because laughter causes a surge of good hormones, not unlike sex, and if you can make a woman laugh enough times, she’ll associate that feeling with your very presence.
8. Being romantic
And last but not least, step out of your comfort zone and be a little bit of a romantic. A couple of candles and the ability to cook are all that you need to make yet another night-out eating in a fancy restaurant into a romantic dinner – even if what you cook turns out badly.
Similarly, a simple picnic over the weekend is all you need to turn yet another movie-filled Saturday into something unforgettable.
The choice is yours.
Ally is part of a team managing personal finance blogs in Sydney, Australia. They provide tips about Budget Planning and How to Save Money Fast . Previously she was a Media Planner working on famous campaigns including the Levi’s 501 “Live Unbuttoned” global campaign.
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